After the birth of our child, something in my husband changed—and the truth behind it broke me in ways I never expected.

That Wednesday, I left Lily with my sister and went to the meeting. There were eight other women there, and their expressions reflected the same confusion and pain I had been feeling.

When it was my turn to speak, I said, “I’m Julia. My husband comes here because of the trauma from our daughter’s birth. But I think I need help too. I’ve felt lost and alone.”

One of the women smiled kindly. “You’re not alone. Birth trauma can affect both parents.”continue reading …